Poly Tools - Uncomfortable Doesn't Mean 'Wrong' part 2

I’m so glad I wrote that post yesterday about uncomfortable not being wrong.

My husband sprang a big one on me this morning. I had to see how i felt about it.

I found that I was following my new pattern,…….I have 2 ways of responding. One way is to be triggered and to totally flip out. The newer way of responding is to shut down when something is said that could have the potential to hurt me. So, I had to let him know that I wasn’t feeling anything and needed to think about it during the day and see if any real feelings came up about the situation.

Then, we talked later tonight and I realized that I hadn’t even gotten the uncomfortable feeling except for the first twinge.

I’ve made progress.
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