Reflections on my '101 goals in 1001 days' lists

Sometimes it’s hard to just sit down and write. I want to write so that I keep the skill fresh, but sometimes it feels like I have nothing to write about, and I don’t want to journal write tonight either.

I even have a list of topics to write about, but none of them are speaking to me.

I do best, when I write about power exchange, poly, sacred sexuality, sex, or something that has happened to me that has left me feeling a strong emotion

Today, I spent most of my day writing in my new notebook. What was I writing? My task list. I used to keep it in a dayminder, a long time ago. Then I went electronic. But, that hasn’t been speaking to me either. I found myself crazing buying a pretty notebook and transferring everything from electronic to paper/pen; a purple pen of course.

I have a ‘101 Goals in 1001 Days’ List that was started in February of 2015 and is due to end in November 2017. I have over 30 items completed, but 70 to go. Most of the list to be completed involves traveling or writing. I won’t get it done by November. Too bad I didn’t put a cruise or Jamaica on it. That’s coming up in June.

Silly me, last October, I realized I had a few items done and decided to replace each finished item with a new item. So that means I have 2 lists going concurrently. One that ends this November and one that ends July 14, 2019.

Even sillier, I also have a ‘Naughty 101 Goals in 1001 Days’ list. This only has 40 items on it though. But, still that means that since February 2015, I’ve come up with 242 Goals. That’s a lot!

I have completed 44. Not bad, if I do say so myself. And if I didn’t have these goals, I may have gotten some things accomplished, but it may not have been things that struck my fancy over the years. It would have been more random, minor things. These lists help keep me on track.

And some of these items are duplicated of things I’ve done before. But, I found them fun or fulfilling and want to do them again. It is how I lost 90 pounds over the years. It’s how we came to start a business with business partners and how we bought a house.

I find these lists very useful, probably because I’m goal driven. The trick is to not become overwhelmed by them. They are a focus tool, not something to beat yourself up over.


101 in 1001


Recently, I decided to re-do my ‘101 goals in 1001’ list, so that I could refocus. Officially, this is my third time of doing this. I’ve been working on goals like this for over 6 years. But, as I finish a goal, I usually add another one to the list so that it’s never below about 80 items. Well, the last time around, I was down to 50 goals, which is why I decided to come up with 101 and give it an official start and end date.

I transferred some of my goals from my previous list over, since I still want to accomplish them. Then, I stole some ideas from friends that joined my facebook page that is just for this project. After that, I still needed some ideas, so I went to others blogs and started looking at their lists. I’m now up to 90 goals. I may leave it at that, so that when I think of others, I have room on the list for it.

I’ll try to keep my blog updated with my progress. It’s very motivational for me.

Oh, and I’m actually over 90 if I add in my naughty stuff. Yep, I’m a grownup I’m going to add in the naughty stuff, though I may add it in code. I think it’s only 3 or 4 items though.

Here we go……..and some of these are already in progress……

101 Goals in 1001 Days
No particular order
February 18, 2015 to November 15, 2017

Not in any specific order of importance. Some of them are just to remind me to take care of myself and some are things that I’ve done before and want to do again.

1) Post gratitude on Facebook for 30 days in a row (5/30)
2) Read 100 book (37/100)
3) Record 5 Guided Meditations (0/5)
4) Listen to NLP CD’s
5) Study Rebirthing by Sondra Ray
6) Schedule/Present Intensive for Survivors (I’ve already created/presented a workshop on this topic at about 6 events, with 1 more in March in Dallas. But, I want to do a full day intensive
7) Schedule/Present Healing Sex Workshop Series or Intensive
8) Schedule 3 Guest speakers for the Columbus Insight Center or The Space (0/3)
9) Charity - Help fund a kickstarter (that’ isn’t my own)
10) Write article for Sacred Sexuality/Tantra/Qadishtu Magazine
11) Write workshop - M/s in a Vanilla World
12) Write article for a Pagan Journal about Rites of Passage
13) Present outside of North America
14) Schedule/Present 2 more M/s weekend intensives (0/2)
15) Schedule Book tour after writing 3rd book
16) Write book on Rites of Passage (with my 14 years of rituals)
17) Write Living M/s Workbook to go with book
18) Create Goddess Box (Worry Box)
19) Perform 6 new moon rituals (0/6)
20) Attend 2 community plays (0/2)
21) Create Liturgy for Sacred Flame Temple
22) Visit Disneyland
23) Visit Petrified Forest
24) Visit Black Hills
25) Scrapbook Cruises
26) Kiss in the Rain
27) Visit 10 unusual roadside oddities (6/10)
28) Schedule naughty poker game, where services are used for bets
29) Attend Roller Derby Game
30) Scenic Train Ride
31) New Tattoo
32) Invest $200 and see how much I can make off it
33) Attend 5 concerts (3/5….Peter Gabriel, Adam Ant, Tubular Bells for Two) Weird Al tickets bought
34) Scan family photos
35) Reach 199 pounds
36) Rings re-sized when hit 199 pounds
37) Attend 5 festivals (1/5)
38) Stay at 3 Air BnB’s (1/3)
39) Pay off credit card
40) Pay off Sallie Mae
41) Fix credit to buy house (7 points away)
42) Visit Grand Canyon
43) Cook dinner for sick friend
44) $500 in personal savings (almost there)
45) 4 Dates with random girls
46) DP Scene
47) Jog 5k (BunnyHop 5k scheduled)
48) Walk 10 5k’s (5/10)
49) Walk the Length of the Appalachian Trail - 2075 miles
(as of 9/10/14, 1688 walked, part of it on the Trail)
50) Climb Rock Wall
51) Ear piercing, 2nd set
52) Create and Notarize Will
53) Add sons to bank paperwork, so it won’t have to go through court
54) Organize important papers (bank info, insurance info, passwords, etc) and keep in safe for kids
55) Complete 5 puzzles (0/5)
56) Pick random point of interest for road trip x3 (0/3)
57) Listen to all episodes of Erotic Awakening
58) Finish afghan for PXS raffle
59) Visit the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame
60) Visit Cedar Point
61) Visit Mammoth Cave
62) Ride an Alpine Slide
63) Visit Cass Scenic Railroad State Park, WV
64) Give 10 ‘just because’ gifts (0/10)
65) Travel to a new state
66) Schedule a Day long meditation retreat
67) Schedule a pajama party - invite only
68) Swim with either dolphins/rays/turtles
69) Complete a zentangle or mandala coloring book
70) Schedule another Psychic Fair
71) Donate 101 things I no longer need (0/101)
72) Send someone a care package for no reason
73) Visit a famous landmark that I’ve never seen before
74) Find all wedding pictures that i’ve officiated and add back to revdawn site
75) See a Broadway show in New York
76) Watch at least 10 documentaries (0/10)
77) Ask friends to name one movie they think I need to watch, and then watch all the recommendations I get
78) Try Zumba
79) Add 10 new albums to our music library (0/10)
80) Organize our music library
81) Participate in Women’s International Leather Legacy (WILL)
82) Buy 5 new boardgames (0/5)
83) Drive a go-cart
84) Build a business partner contract for the Blue Adventures Cooperative
85) Frame a wall-worthy map and start marking the places I’ve been
86) Come up with 101 things
87) Get Yahoo mail to zero inbox, and keep that way for 10 days (0/10)
88) Complete a craft project from pin interest
89) Post 3 times a week on my blog for a full month
90) Find 5 blogs to add to my reader (and remember how to use reader) (0/5)
91) Spend time gun range with boyfriend
92) Become a meat puppet for 3 different people again (0/3)


Facebook group - 101 in 1001

I just started a new facebook group that feels like it’s going to be a lot of fun if people will participate.

Years ago, Lee Harrington mentioned the fact that he has something he does, called a 101 in 1001 days list. I didn’t know that this was actually a ‘thing’ when I decided to copy the idea. I figured that if something like that could keep Lee on track with all the projects he’s involved in, I might be able to keep track of everything I want to do and add some fun stuff into it. My life had lost focus and goals give me focus.

So, now I’m on my 3
rd round, though I don’t think I officially finished the 2nd round. I was finishing everything so fast that I was adding things to it as fast as I was completing them, instead of finishing the list and then creating a new one on the due date.

So, time to start over. Michelle, D’arts wife, gave me a bucket list book and it re-fueled my interest. I’m hoping this facebook group helps. I went through my facebook friends and picked 20 strong women that I felt would like help with their goals, could be self-motivated and might be good at motivating others.

Sarah Sloane was doing this with her weightlifting group that she invited me to, and it’s going very well. I’m curious what this group of strong women can accomplish together.

crossing my fingers that it keeps me on track as well. I’ve got some items that have been on my list since my first round of 101 goals…..over 5 years ago.