Power Exchange vs Attachment

Power Exchange vs Attachment

I just had someone ask me about the fear of becoming attached to their Master. That they see a power exchange relationship as something to stay away from, because what she sees is a deeper attachment than in vanilla relationships. I totally agree, it is. At least for me, it is. But, i wouldn’t want it to be any other way. Deep is what I want.


The trick is to be aware of my emotions, to be able to see from the outside what is going on. I can’t imagine going through life totally detached. My thought is that we are supposed to be experiencing life. We can’t experience life from the outside. The trick is to be aware that we are attached, and work with it.

I am attached to my Master. I am also aware that he is his own person. I am also aware that at some point our relationship will end. Whether one of us leaves, or one of us dies, it will end. To believe differently causes suffering.

So, I live the ‘middle path’. I am attached. I’m aware I’m attached. I’m aware I can’t control it. I work hard at not being attached to our actions, though we do follow rules. I’m aware it will end. If you are in a power exchange with eyes wide open and with the idea that things constantly change, the results of the attachment will be easier.

I’m going to let this percolate, because I just don’t have the words.

In the end....I’m in a deep relationship, with a person I totally trust, with a person I can be completely vulnerable to. I need this sort of relationship to thrive. Knowing this, why would I step away from it out of fear of attachment?